I have a confession: I can’t say “no”– or at least I find it hard. I guess it’s the sanguine part of me that makes me want to please everybody, and having to sacrifice a lot of other things for the sake of friends have become quite a burden lately.
I am a ghost writer for other bloggers who happen to be my closest friends online. My ghostwriting dates back to late 2009 when I started to do writing jobs just for one friend and then eventually more and more people wanted my “services.”
Now, writing for older bloggers is a compliment. I like the fact that I also earn for something that I love doing, and at the same time, I would be of help. If I were to sum up my total income for ghostwriting last year, I believe I would be so pleasantly surprised at the figures I will see. But that, I have yet to do.
Anyways, I have been suffering from some kind of depression lately. I have been working hard ’til the wee hours in the morning, and I kept accepting assignments. I was unstoppable… and then I would find myself so tired the last words I would mutter before I shut my eyes would be, “God, I am so tired. I am so tired.”
Hubby became so concerned, he said I should learn to say “no”. I promised I would, but when I see my friends online asking for my help, I couldn’t help it. I find myself saying “yes” again… and so the pattern continues.
But in the end, I am so grateful that my friends understood when I told them I could not do it on a particular day, and that I would need to rest, etc. At least today I spent the whole day with my family without feeling guilty that I promised my friends I could do their articles and I am not doing anything about it, actually.
Learning to say “no” is not easy for me, but I have to do that, if I care enough for my family or for myself. I also learned that my friends are the most understanding people there are– and like me, they also want to stay healthy and serve their families as well. It’s just a matter of being honest on my part.